Why does it take a deathbed, a nursing home, a funeral, or the passing of someone?

Why does it take a car accident? Why does it take the loss of a child? Why does it take broken arms or legs?

Why does it take a broken down automobile?

Why… Whatever it may be, why does it take so long, and why does it take these things to change who we are or, at least, bring us to a point where we could make allowances for the change when, in actuality, we are supposed to already have been acting like Jesus Christ 100% of the time?